5 Ways I’m Getting Over My Breakup

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About a month ago, my boyfriend and I split.  Our relationship had been a whirlwind of ups and downs, and in the midst of it all, I fell deeply in love with him.  Unfortunately, as whirlwind romances are wont to go, ours fell apart.

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DSC_1092It’s been a rough month.  I’ve been missing him like crazy, and it’s been hard to adjust to a life without all of our routines.  I don’t have a go-to person to go out with on Saturday nights.  I don’t have someone to text about awful people riding their bikes on busy sidewalks.  I don’t get to hang out with his friends and family anymore.  It can be downright shitty sometimes.

But!  I’ve found that there are some things that are really helping me work through this breakup, and most days, I feel pretty good about my newly single state.  I am by no means completely over my ex-boyfriend, but I think I’m making a good start. Here are some of the ways I’ve been coping with it:

  1. I’m getting help.  One of the first things I did after the breakup was make an appointment with a therapist.  I had never gone before, but I felt like I needed to talk about all these new and icky feelings I had about the end of my relationship.  And then I hired a breakup coach, who is helping me develop some strong, concrete strategies for working on myself and helping me heal.
  2. I found a new hobby.  In a previous post, I mentioned that I joined a Meetup group for hiking.  Well, it was definitely the result of the breakup!  I needed something to do to fill in some of the time I wouldn’t be spending with my ex anymore, and I wanted to do something fun and active.  I really enjoyed my first hike, and I’m scheduled to do another one in a couple of weeks.  I can’t wait!
  3. I’m spending more time with friends and family.  While I’m sad that I can’t hang out with my ex and his friends and family, it’s been really great to shift my focus back to my own pals.  I’m so grateful to have had a lot of support from all kinds of places: from my mom and dad, from my oldest friends, from the blogging world, from my work buddies, and, most of all, from Moxie.
  4. I exercise.  I’ll admit that I’ve been a little lax about my workout regimen since the breakup, but when I do something to get my heart pumping, it feels so good.  I’ve started running again for the first time in a year, and Mox and I have been taking some great long walks.  Not to mention I’m getting back into PIIT28, which is basically the best thing ever.  It’s awesome to do something nice for my body, and working out always clears my head.  Plus, it’s not a bad excuse for getting cute new workout gear!
  5. I let myself feel what I need to feel.  It’s all well and good to stay busy, but when I’m feeling sad, I let myself be sad for a little while.  It’s okay to cry, to write it all out, and really explore my feelings.

Necklace: ModCloth

Top: ModCloth (sold out)

Shorts: ModCloth

Shoes: ModCloth

Bag: old, ModCloth

 

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14 thoughts on “5 Ways I’m Getting Over My Breakup

  1. I am sorry to hear about your story but at the same time happy to see you giving all your efforts to make your life better. Sometimes certain things happen for good and we realize it much later. By the way you look fab on the photographs and I so love your bag! All the best to you and be strong! 🙂

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    1. Thank you very much! Honestly I’m already starting to feel like this was a good thing. I miss my ex, but man, I like being single!!

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  2. So sorry to hear that you guys broke up! I’m glad you’re doing stuff for yourself and doing things that make you feel good and make you feel happy!! And you look super duper cute in this outfit!
    ~Sara

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    1. Thank you so much, Sara! Despite it being a little rough at first, it’s been pretty fun to get back to my single life. 🙂

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  3. So sorry to hear that you’ve been going through such a rough patch! Breakups are rotten and also a little complicated when you’re a blogger who pours themselves into a really public forum. Glad you’re working on you though. It sounds like you’re on your way to a better place and that you’re navigating it all with a clear head. Sending you so much love! Xoxo
    PS outfit is adorable

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    1. Thank you so much, Liana! As crappy as the breakup has been, I’m on my way to feeling a lot better about it, and part of it has to do with support from blogger friends like you! I almost didn’t write this post because I didn’t really want to acknowledge the breakup in public, but now I’m glad I did.

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  4. You totally got this, girl! I already see that! I’ve been there done that and while it sucks big time, you become such a strong and independent version of yourself in the end and it’s AMAZING! I lived on my own, did whatever I wanted, supported myself, and worked my a$$ off after my breakup and it felt so AWESOME! So in other words, you’re gonna kick butt. Just keep doing what you’re doing!

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    1. I am so happy that your breakup led to amazing things for you! That’s really inspiring to hear. I’m starting to get back to who I was before, and it feels really good to just focus on myself and the stuff I really care about. 🙂

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  5. Finally got around to reading your post. I’m always rooting for you and hope you’ll get through this (and it seems that you’re on the right path)! The last tip is the most important one, I feel—with any kind of heartbreak, really—so please don’t hesitate to express your feelings on this blog if you feel the need to 🙂

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    1. Thank you very much 🙂 At first, I was not planning to acknowledge the breakup on my blog, but I’m glad I did. It felt good to admit that it happened and that I’m working on getting over it. My blog has become a very personal space so I think I needed to let this all out here.

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